What nobody tells you about traveling on your own
I love my friends and family, and have taken many trips with them throughout the years. After a particularly rough breakup, however, I started to do more things on my own. That’s when I started to take some solo trips.
When most people hear that I travel solo, I often hear “you’re so brave for doing that!” and similar comments. The truth is, sometimes I agree; other times I feel like that sentiment couldn’t be further from the truth. Solo traveling has been both freeing and lonely, exciting and scary, and everything in between. If you haven’t done it before, I encourage you to try it out. I’ve put together some thoughts on my experience with solo trips. I’m hoping it helps you out, whether by providing advice, motivation, or community.

Traveling solo can be lonely.
One thing I’ve struggled with the most is that I often miss having someone to share that moment with. It can be hard to walk into a restaurantwhere others may not even share your language, and know you’ll be dining alone. I often turn in for the night wishing I had someone to recap the day with. So yes, traveling solo can be lonely. But guess what? That’s okay to feel. As much as I try to call home, it’s not always possible. Something that has helped me with that need to share is that I get myself a postcard from my destination. I then write about some of the best parts and mail it to myself to reflect on later as well.
Solo travel = doing what YOU want.
How many times have you gone on a trip and passed up on something you wanted to do in favor of the group’s plans? The thing I love the most about solo travel is that I can choose my own adventure. Sometimes that thing is as simple as going to a museum for an exhibit I wanted to see. For example, I went to London’s Museum of Natural History solely for their David Attenborough virtual reality experience. My friend I was traveling with wasn’t interested, but I made it a solo experience.
I’ve also learned that I love to find a quiet place and just read. I now enjoy dinners alone a lot of the time. When I took a solo cruise, I made it through more books than ever just by taking them to dinner with me.
Sometimes my solo travel plans are more active. On my solo trip to Portugal, I flew to Madeira and did a sunrise hike. In Mexico, I joined a tour to explore the Rio Secreto, something some of my usual travel partners wouldn’t have wanted to do.

Making friends is possible on a solo trip
I have often by surprised by the kindness of strangers when I’m traveling on my own. Most people are willing to share in their day in little ways like a smile or a brief conversation. Traveling solo has been a great way for me to come out of my shell and meet new people.
I can recall several times where speaking to someone while on an activity alone led to future encounters and lifelong friends. One particular moment that comes to mind is when I went on a wine tour from Porto to the Duoro Valley. There ended up being several people on the tour around my age and we exchanged numbers. Later on in my trip, I met up with a few of them for brunch at a place they’d heard of but I hadn’t known about. It was delicious, and a great way to have a little company!
Solo traveling doesn’t have to mean being alone.
Just because you don’t know anyone wanting to travel doesn’t mean you have to stay home, or be completely alone! Group travel is a great solution for first-time solo travelers or those that prefer a mix of company and time alone.
Back in February 2024, I took a trip to Belize and Guatemala with a tour group. Going into it, I knew nobody – I was on my own in picking the trip and taking my flights. I ended up making several friends who I’ve now visited and/or taken trips with since then.
Depending on the trip, there’s sometimes also gatherings for solo travelers. On my solo cruise in January 2025, I received an invite to a solo traveler meetup the evening we left. I made friends at that gathering that I was able to message and invite to trivia and other activities on the ship throughout the week.

Solo trips can be expensive.
It’s really great to pick where you want to stay, and what you want to do. I especially love having a place to get some quiet time between active parts of my trip. That being said, costs of traveling alone can certainly add up. Unless you’re going with a company that pairs you with a roommate, you’re covering the full cost of accommodation on your own. Even if you want a solo room on a group trip, there’s often a single supplement. Some tours are made for a minimum number of people. Sometimes you’re on your own with paying for rental cars and other transportation. If you want to travel on your own, it’s best to be able to budget and prioritize expenses. You may also want to consider shared spaces like hostels if that’s something you’re comfortable with.
Safety is extra important to keep top of mind.
Yes, you should always be aware of your surroundings and do your best to travel safely. Being on your own makes you even more mindful of how to remain safe. I always travel with my personal items in a secure bag on my front. For private hotel rooms, especially in some unfamiliar destinations, I have a portable door lock like this one. Try to avoid telling people you’re on your own, especially in taxis and rideshares. If someone asks, I usually tell them I have people I’m meeting up with or take a phone call to show I have others that know where I am. Don’t give your room number at a loud volume when interacting with hotel/hostel staff. Know the emergency lines of your destination, and the best practices for things like taking a taxi alone.
Should I travel alone?
Overall, traveling alone is something I have learned to really love. Whether it’s a full trip on my own, or scheduling days on a shared trip to have some time with myself doing the things I care about, solo travel is a rewarding experience. It’s completely valid to be anxious or scared to take that solo trip. It can be expensive, and at times lonely. In my opinion, the pros far outweigh the cons. Start small if needed with a weekend trip or going alone on a group tour but take that solo trip!










































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